The Dirty Divorce Warchest



This is an essential guide to help you survive and win a ‘dirty’ divorce. Divorce is sometimes war, and it’s a war where the odds may seem stacked against you. If you don’t want to be annihilated, you need to know the weapons that can and probably will be used against you, and to understand the tricks that are played, so that you can protect yourself and turn them back onto your opponent.

There has never been a UK book on divorce like this before. It has been written by an experienced divorce lawyer to take the lid off the system and provide the inside knowledge needed to win in the game of divorce. When divorce strikes, you are moving into the divorced new and unfamiliar world. An alien world of courts and lawyers who you must deal with whilst under tremendous emotional pressure. With The Dirty Divorce Warchest as your guide you will not be outwitted by some sharp lawyer, possibly paid for by legal aid to help your former spouse take everything off you.

The Dirty Divorce Warchest shows you the essential strategies and tactics used by some divorce lawyers and gives you the inside information not available elsewhere to not only survive but win. Many people are pushed to desperation by the dirty tricks that the divorce system plays on them. Do not be one of them. The Dirty Divorce Warchest explains the things you need to know to protect yourself and shows you the pitfalls and traps which can so easily be fallen into. It contains approximately 15,000 words and 60 pages and costs only £19.99 – much the same price as one letter from a solicitor.


This is not a book about just dealing with a divorce situation. There are many others which do that. No more is it a book about surviving a divorce and relationship breakdown. There are others more qualified and better than us at helping with the emotional side of a family breakup. It is a book which teaches you, at this difficult time, what you need to know to put you in control of your situation and to make sure that you do not get screwed.

Not getting screwed when a marriage breaks down is going to require you to understand the rules of the game. There is no avoiding that. The book deals with and explains the law and procedure applicable to divorce or dissolving a civil partnership in England and Wales. This is not enough in itself however and, if you are to do more than pass through the divorce process, you are going to need that extra know-how and understanding that lawyers have obtained and which only come from years of experience.

The book will enable you to understand and deal effectively with the legal process and law relating to divorce or dissolving a civil partnership and thereby stay in control of the situation. It is not a book of dirty tricks to be applied to get one over on your ex, but contains advice and a mass of tips from experienced and qualified family lawyers, who have been at the sharp end of divorce for many years. It explains in everyday language what a divorce lawyer would tell you, if they had the time and you had the money to pay them for their lifetime’s experience.

The overriding objective of the law is for a marriage which has broken down to be laid peacefully to rest and for there to be a fair settlement of financial issues. That should also be your objective, and this book will help you achieve it. It is written for those who don’t want – or can’t afford – to pay the high cost of legal fees, but want their divorce to go through without delay or difficulty, and to know that the financial settlement is fair, in accordance with the law, and binding.

The book is intended for those who want to understand and be in control of what is going on. You need to manage the changes that there will be to your life, and it will tell you all that you need to confidently navigate your way through a divorce and make the right decisions along the way. The paperwork leading up to pronouncement of a decree of divorce (or dissolution of a civil partnership) is explained alongside the possible pitfalls. The second part of the book deals with financial issues, both when they are agreed and where they have to be decided by the court. The emphasis is on providing the understanding needed to decide whether a financial settlement is fair and how it can be given legal effect. The final section contains advice and tips for those unfortunate enough to become embroiled in a difficult or ‘dirty’ divorce.

When you are weak and in a divorce situation, the vultures descend. The first to try and screw you may not be your spouse. There will be those offering to help, manage everything for you and take the burden off your shoulders – for a price, of course. Unfortunately, ambulance chasing lawyers have cousins. There is rarely, if ever, any need to spend money employing a lawyer to fill in a divorce application form, and no need to pay someone to ‘manage’ the court process for you. There are those who will take over the paperwork required to obtain a financial order by consent, although you will never know whether the order was really fair in your particular circumstance. And of course, there are any number of law firms who will take over everything and run your divorce.
The purpose of this book is therefore to put you in charge of your divorce by providing you with all the information you need to avoid unnecessary cost and stress, and obtain a hassle free divorce and financial order.



Foreword 3

Preparing for war 4

Disputes over children 11
Child alienation 14
Frustrating contact 18
Move aways 19

Financial issues 20

Your campaign 21

Your journal 22

Should you instruct a solicitor to act for you? 25

Representing yourself 27

Instructing a solicitor 29